Build Assertiveness

Express needs respectfully

Challenge thoughts that hold you back from speaking up and practice expressing your needs or opinions clearly and respectfully.

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How it works

Describe your assertiveness challenge

Explore the situation through tailored questions

Receive customized insights and action steps

Example

Here's what you might expect when using Build Assertiveness

Describe a situation where you want to be more assertive

I need to ask my boss for a raise but I'm afraid they'll think I'm being greedy or demanding

Sample Questions

•What specific outcome are you hoping for in this situation?
•What fears or thoughts hold you back from speaking up?
•How do you typically handle situations where you need to assert yourself?

Sample Analysis & Strategies

Understanding:

You want to advocate for fair compensation but fear being seen as greedy, which may stem from beliefs that asking for what you deserve is somehow wrong or selfish. This fear is preventing you from communicating an important professional need.

Cognitive Strategies:

•Challenge the 'greedy' label: Asking for fair compensation based on your contributions is professional, not greedy
•Separate assertiveness from aggression: You can ask respectfully while still being direct about your needs
•Examine the evidence: What facts support your request? Focus on your value and contributions

Behavioral Strategies:

•Use the 'I' statement framework: 'I would like to discuss my compensation based on my contributions and market rates'
•Practice the conversation beforehand with a trusted friend or family member
•Start with lower-stakes assertiveness practice in other areas to build confidence

Motivational Insight:

Advocating for yourself professionally is not selfish - it's taking responsibility for your career and modeling self-respect. Clear, respectful communication strengthens rather than damages good working relationships.

Why use Build Assertiveness?

Express your needs clearly without guilt or aggression
Build stronger, more honest relationships through direct communication
Increase self-respect and confidence in professional settings
Reduce resentment that builds from unexpressed needs

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